Have you ever felt so overwhelmed you did not know which direction to go? As a life coach, I have all the tools necessary to deal with this dilemma, and you would think I would be immune. The realization is life coaches are human too, and sometimes we find ourselves wanting to say, “I’m done!” just like everyone else.
Starting a new job, starting a new business, keeping up with a blog, relocating my mother to live with us, having an addicted son in prison and the other in the military, three dogs, one husband, chronic pain, and menopause to top it off, has led me to state those words on several occasions recently. I quit exercising, meditating, and doing even the small things I enjoyed all in the name of driving myself crazy. Don’t get me wrong, I do realize I am blessed in so many ways and it could always be worse. However, some days that does not seem to matter and I am paralyzed from doing anything. My little brain can be so overwhelmed and will not think or focus on what I need to get done. If you have reached that point, as I did, you are not taking care of yourself!
“It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it.” Lena Horne
So, what is a crazed life coach to do? My advice…reboot. What do I mean by that? Get away, at least temporarily. Now, I realize, if you have children that seems easier said than done, but there is a way and it does not have to be complicated. If I am caring for myself and my mind is clear, it is easier to focus, prioritize, and take action no matter what the task or situation. Once I get to the point of saying “I’m done!”, it is time to change my approach. I need to take at least 10 minutes for myself to clear my overtaxed brain, and as my husband likes to remind me “my list is not going anywhere.”
- change of scenery: go outside, take the kids to the park, go to a friends’
- exercise: take a walk, swim, run, weight train (work up a good sweat)
- deep breathing exercises: there are free phone apps that can guide you through this and deep breathing can take minimal time with big benefits
- meditate: although this may seem impossible, practicing when you are not overwhelmed may help you be successful in lessening those out of control feelings/there are also free apps for beginners who want to learn to meditate
- reading or watching a movie: both can transport you temporarily into a different world
The easiest way for me to avoid this feeling is to take preventative steps to avoid it. “Busy-ness is a state of mind, not a fact.” (oprah.com) I need to ask myself these questions.
- I can only do what I can do. So, why am I feeling like I should do everything at one time?
- What is my priority at this moment?
- What will happen if I wait to do this?
- Do I need to ask for help?
- Do I need to say “no”?
- Do I need to take a mental break?
“You have dealt with so much, and done the best that you can, take a moment now to appreciate how strong you are.” Karen Salmansohn